some people just talk too damn much. i ask, "how was the movie?" and he interprets it as, "give me a detailed summary about the movie please". i don't get it. some people just keep going without any feedback or follow up questions. in my mind, i'm expecting a 10 word response MAX but i get a 10 minute response? oh hell no. i feel like it's pretty obvious to know when a person is interested in lengthening the dialog and wants you to continue talking. you know, like having a conversation where all parties involved participate in the exchanging of words. if i'm not asking any follow up questions, i'm not interested in what you're saying so wrap it up already and land your plane. i get so annoyed mid speech that i can no longer hear them and can only think about how to escape this interaction. at this point i regret even asking in the first place! i walk away at the first chance i get and while i'm totally relieved, i feel sorta guilty for not being invested at all. but really, it's their fault! don't people get those social cues? had i asked one question just to be polite, well, that would instantly be an extra 10 minute commitment there. good grief!
Monday, October 3, 2011
chatty cathy
some people just talk too damn much. i ask, "how was the movie?" and he interprets it as, "give me a detailed summary about the movie please". i don't get it. some people just keep going without any feedback or follow up questions. in my mind, i'm expecting a 10 word response MAX but i get a 10 minute response? oh hell no. i feel like it's pretty obvious to know when a person is interested in lengthening the dialog and wants you to continue talking. you know, like having a conversation where all parties involved participate in the exchanging of words. if i'm not asking any follow up questions, i'm not interested in what you're saying so wrap it up already and land your plane. i get so annoyed mid speech that i can no longer hear them and can only think about how to escape this interaction. at this point i regret even asking in the first place! i walk away at the first chance i get and while i'm totally relieved, i feel sorta guilty for not being invested at all. but really, it's their fault! don't people get those social cues? had i asked one question just to be polite, well, that would instantly be an extra 10 minute commitment there. good grief!
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hahaha this is hilarious! I am the exact same way. I don't want to hear a 10 minute ramble that means nothing to me, but sometimes it's so hard to get the other person to stop talking! And I'll feel so bad if I do something to cut them off or make them stop. But I just got to learn how to be nice about it while at the same time really saying I don't really care/ stop talking :) However, if it's my mom or siblings I don't have a problem saying that!
exactly! i have to work on my patience skills. i should be able to handle these situations without feeling like i want to pull my hair out! family is always different.
Great timely post! I did a podcast on this same topic awhile back and it's oh so relevant!
http://youmeus.posterous.com/enough-about-you-now-me
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